This guy is brilliant. He does not give a Fuck, in a beautiful way

I’ve got to say, this guy does not give a fuck. He’s got the balls of a raging Wolverine fending off a pack of wolves.

I know wolverines do this because I googled what the bravest animals are, and this came up high on the list. Clearly, I give at least that one Fuck too many. So learn, where I have not yet succeeded:

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

A message from my Grandfather

See, I’m a story teller. But more than that, I’m a story-liver. We all are. We all write and rewrite the stories of our lives from moment to moment, and live out the story that we are telling ourselves. The specific memories that we choose to hold on to, who we identify as, what we ‘do’ in life – these are all stories that can, and do, change in a second from scene to scene of our lives.

One of the most powerful things that we can do to redirect our lives this moment is to look around us, rub out the unhelpful details of the story that we’ve written, and begin to carefully, lovingly, rewrite the story of our self. All it takes is a brush or two of the imagination, and bang you’re a new person.

The end goal of all of this is to not have a story at all, to be the process of pure creation as the story writes itself all in and around you (here we’re using story to dissolve story, ain’t that funny). But sometimes that seems like to big a step to jump. And here we are, knowing that that we can rewrite the story of our life, the story of yourself, and jump storybooks to the new realities that you’ve written up. Give it a shot. Why are you reading this right now? As you answer, look at the story that you’re telling yourself. It’s just one of an infinite possible perspectives that you can have. Why are you reading this right now? Are you on a study break? Are you procrastinating? Are you trawling the webpages for light hearted fun? Are you curious, bored or inspired? Is there an end goal to reading this, or are you doing it just for the experience here and now? What preconceptions do you have about what you’re reading now? Where in the story of your life are you right now?

Do you like where you are in the story of your life?

Here, let me try. Why am I writing this? Because I want to share? Because I want to process this new perspective that I’m only just able to grasp? Our personalities, our minds – they’re built up on these memory and identity structures that can change in an instant, with the force of a single thought! Perhaps this is a lot to chew on for me, and you’re helping me doing some of the chewing. In which case, thank you for joining me here at the shores of this new perspective. I sense there’s an exciting adventure ahead for us.

As a side note, let me add, that the stories that we tell ourselves embroider themselves into our very bodies. That tension in your shoulders or that stiffness in your back – that’s just the stories that you’ve been telling yourself made physical. Are you carrying too much emotional weight? Are you being a little inflexible with some of your day to day thoughts?

Rewriting the story of your life is a skill like any other, just a little more meta.


Running writing,


On making decisions

This is perhaps one of the most important skills that we can learn. It’s not the bad decisions that grind our lives to a halt, but the fear of making a bad decision that slows us down in our day to day adventures. The idea of the decision has burdened upon it far too much responsibility than it deserves. A decision may bring with it painful repercussions, of course. However, we can only make so good a decision as we can with the information available at the time. However, a fear of such eventuations only slows down and hinders the process of living life.

It is from the overly sentimental  memory and idea of the decision that fear, anxiety, regret and much of our energetic paralysis stems.  Rather than focus on the negative consequences of the decision, it is far more useful to view this idea in a more wholesome sense; decisions are the crystallisation of your intentions into your real everyday life.

As long as a decision is made from a place of being centered, relaxed and aware of your emotions, it is not the decision per say upon which your happiness in built, but rather your reaction to the consequences. And again, a positive reaction to life’s vicissitudes comes with being centered, relaxed and aware of your emotions.

Moral of the story? Chill out – and go take that plunge! Haha!

Thanks for the advice, Actual Advice Mallard
Thanks for the advice, Actual Advice Mallard

Funny how much business advice is just life advice

quoted from

11 tips for starting your own business #newbusinessadvice #SME #business. I wrote this to a mate recently, thought I’d share it:

1. Business is 99% perspiration, 1% inspiration.

2. It’s not about how good you are at what you do – that’s a given. It’s all about sales & marketing & relationships & getting the message out there. You can be the best, most passionate coach/trainer/whatever you do in business, but if no-one knows about it, you won’t earn any money at it!

3. Nil bastardae carborundae – don’t let the bastards (things in general) grind you down. Trust me, there’s plenty to grind on you. Keep getting back up, keep going. It’s hard. Tomorrow may be harder. But as Winston Churchill says: “When you’re going through hell – keep going”!

4. Don’t compare yourself with anyone else, unless it is a positive driver for you. It’s your life, your business, you do what you need to do, not what someone else needs you to do.

5. Listen to others, but ultimately believe in yourself. You are the only one walking in your shoes.

6. Keep your integrity, no matter how hard it is. Clients will come back to you because of it And you can sleep at night – & man, you need all the sleep you can get running your own business!

7. Get the best people around you that you can, people you can trust. You don’t have to know it all, you just need a combination of people who do :-)

8. Trust your gut. If you go with your gut & you’re wrong, that’s likely to be a far less damaging outcome than if you go with the decision you made when you didn’t listen to it.

9. Vision without execution is just hallucination. Taking action is what counts. Any step, no matter how small, is a step forward, it’s the only way you’ll get there. If you don’t know what to do, doing something is always better than doing nothing.

10. There is no wrong decision. If it’s wrong, as long as you learn from it & don’t make the mistake next time, that’s good! As the saying goes, a collection of mistakes is what we later call experience.

11. Keep focused on what’s important to you – health, family, etc, and make time for it. No-one, ever, laid on their death bed & said “I wish I’d spent more time in the office”.